Women of America – Help Us Raise Awareness!

My name’s Amanda – the founder and mama behind the Kandy Apple world – and I am a woman who just won’t stand for abuse, mistreatment or discrimination against women anymore.

I am tired of politicians thinking that they know what’s best for women and victim’s well-being based on their own limited life experiences. Tired of abuse and discrimination being looked at as something that happens to “someone else”. And tired of people refusing to talk about difficult subjects, trying to push them under the rug as if they aren’t real.

The truth is, abuse and discrimination against women happens to a great many of us.

(Video via USA Today in Honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month)

Instead of bringing awareness to this epidemic – we stay silent. As if speaking the truth of it were as taboo as being friends with your ex-husbands new wife. (Oh the irony.)

Did you know that according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1 in 3 women have been a victim of physical abuse? 19.3 million women have been stalked. 1 in 15 children are exposed to domestic violence. (source)

Then, according to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, 1 in 6 women have been raped. 1 in 6!! 33% of those victims contemplate suicide, while 63% of them do not come forward to report what happened. And 94% of those that do report being raped, experience PTSD during the 2 weeks following the incident, 30% continue to experience it 9 months later.  (source)

A 1996 study by the Medical University of South Carolina (there really needs to be a new one done!) on rape-related pregnancies, 5% of rape cases end in unwanted pregnancies. (source) While estimated to be 32,101 pregnancies at the time, calculating in population increases, could equate to 50,000 cases this year. (source – read Kilpatrick’s thoughts – he’s director of the National Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center at MUSC)

These statistics are staggering!

Based on recent survey results from our current Kandy Apple Mama audience, 68% of those surveyed have been abused or discriminated against because of their gender. Let that number sink in for a second; it surprised me, too.

As the CEO of this growing mom-blog Kandy Apple Mama, it is my mission to help women and mothers around the world with self-improvement, and raising a better generation. We are here to empower women, to show them that they are not alone, that anything is possible – including change – and that rape culture doesn’t have to be this way!

“Rape is the only crime in which the victim becomes the accused.” – Freda Adler

My business partner (my oldest daughter’s stepmom) and I run this little blog together. She and I have bonded over our own experiences of mistreatment and discrimination, and are on a mission to help as many women dealing with same or similar issues as we possibly can.

Over the next year (until March 2018), we’re putting together an eBook called Open Your Mind: Real Stories from Real Women. We will be filling it with real struggles, trials, and tribulations that women – just like you – have experienced in their lifetime. While the stories will be published anonymously, we hope to share them in order to raise awareness and share #truth, without exploitation.

Which brings me to my question –

Would you be willing to contribute your own story?


If you’ve had any experience with the following:

  • Sexual abuse or rape
  • Physical abuse – domestic or otherwise
  • Mental or emotional abuse
  • Abortion or unwanted pregnancies
  • Discrimination in the work place
  • Or any other abuse or discrimination you’ve experienced because of your gender

Then we want to hear from you.

Kandy Apple Mama is looking for women of all walks of life who are tired of the double standards, of victim-blaming, of inequality and discrimination against women. Who are tired of hiding our struggles because others consider it “taboo” to talk about them. And who want to be a part of something big to help raise awareness for sexual abuse, domestic violence, inequality, and discrimination.

Our team is looking for women to contribute their true stories to a project – the Open Your Mind Project.

Our goal is to combine stories from over 1000 women nation-wide that have been a victim of domestic violence, abuse, or discrimination, into a neatly wrapped eBook. This eBook, we believe, will have the power to change. Through real women’s contributed (anonymous) stories, Open Your Mind will bring out the truth of these issues that are happening every day – issues that need to be addressed.

We want your story, and those like yours, to be heard by the masses. To be read by politicians and shared with other women to show that they are not alone. To show those without the first hand experience that this is a real issue that needs solving. That these stories don’t just happen to “someone” but to “so many“.

It’s our hope that by sharing the truth of real women, their stories will open the eyes of all who consider victims “others”, that society will realize how prevalent and serious these issues are, and that majority will demand action to remedy them. Whether that be by standing up for victims in the future, providing more “safe place” sanctuaries for women and children who need them, or passing legislation that make rape, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and gender discrimination or inequality a more serious offense.

We’re seeking more than 1000 women to join our fight against societies ignorance.

Let’s raise awareness for a righteous cause, and be the change we wish to see in the world!

If you choose to submit your story for publication, no one but Kristen and myself will need to know your name, who you are or where you live. All the future readers need to know is that your story is real, from a real woman, with real pain. We want to use your story and those like it to make others aware of the reality behind these issues, and to share the truth of it all.

It’s our hope that Open Your Mind: Real Stories, from Real Women grows in popularity enough to make the masses and the powers-that-be realize just how serious rape culture, gender discrimination, inequality, abuse, etc., truly is to women from all over. With this project, we hope to change things for the better. We hope to open people’s minds.

If you have a story that you would like to submit to share truth, raise awareness, and incite change, then please – email us using the from below OR at openyourmind@kandyapplemama.com

*A portion of all profits earned from the Open Your Mind eBook will go to the non-profit organizations RAINN and NCADV. These organizations stand and fight against the same issues we are. They provide resources, tools, and helping hands to victims, as well as actionable steps (through education and legislation) to prevent abuse and discrimination from happening. Check out their websites to learn more.*


Ready to submit your story?


We are so glad to hear you’re interested in raising awareness and being part of the Open Your Mind project. For the eBook to reach its full potential of influence, we’re hoping to include at least 1000 stories from different women all over the United States.

It’s one of our most passionate projects, so we take its quality and creation pretty seriously. To submit, we ask that you write your story in narrative form, fully describing your story and  personal experience.

We are looking for stories relating to topics of:

  • Sexual abuse or rape
  • Physical abuse – domestic or otherwise
  • Mental or emotional abuse
  • Abortion or unwanted pregnancies
  • Discrimination in the work place
  • Or any other abuse or discrimination you’ve experienced because of your gender

All aspects of the story should be your real and honest version of what took place. We want to see things through your eyes, and what you experienced. No embellishments or exaggerations, and absolutely no falsehoods (lies).

We ask that it be written like a story, as if you were telling it out loud to a friend. Write it in your own voice.

If you include names in your narrative, don’t worry – we will either remove them or change them when we edit. We want our authors to remain anonymous to the public.

Please include a cover page with your information: name, the date, your age, as well as where and when this event took place (city and year). Your information is for our office and filing purposes only, and will be kept strictly confidential.

You will also need to include a signed copy of our Permissive Use document, which you can download HERE.

We understand that sharing this story may be difficult for you. You are under no obligation to submit it. But, we hope that your desire for change and female solidarity will overcome your fear.

Please email your submission to: openyourmind@kandyapplemama.com with the subject line: My Real Story Submission (+Your last name) OR by using the form below.

Please don’t forget – we are here for you. You are not alone in your struggles. That is exactly why we have created this project – so we can all stand united in the face of our own truth.


In case you need the requirements outlined again:

  • Narrative form, written in your own voice
  • Must be your real and honest experience, no falsehoods
  • Include a cover page with: your name, the date, your current age, where and when the event took place (city and year)
  • Include a signed copy of our Permissive Use page (provided HERE)


We look forward to hearing from you.




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