Hey there!

I’m Amanda, founder and CEO of Kandy Apple Mama.

Of course, that’s only 1 piece of my puzzle. I’m not only a blogger, but also an artist, an entrepreneur, mama of two wonderful girls, fiancé to the most amazing man, a coffee and Netflix addict, lover of cuddles, learning, and always improving. 

I am a huge proponent of the mantra “embrace your journey” because life is not a race to the finish line! It’s a long and challenging journey through countless trials and tribulations that mold you into the person you are meant to be.

This blog has become part of my epic life journey.

What started as a virtual “babe cave” where I could share my creative projects and parenting experiences, has turned into something even greater. It has turned into a place to share tons of helpful information for women, mothers, and their children. It’s become a platform for change, positivity, and self-improvement. Read Kandy Apple Mama’s About page to learn more.

Not only that, but it’s also become my job, my business, my mission, my escape, AND my third baby. Ha!

But before I dive into bloggy-business, why don’t we start with some interesting facts you probably don’t know about me.

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10 Interesting Facts You Probably Didn’t Know About Me

  1. I’m an extreme introvert and can go days without leaving my house. (Yes, I know I should get out more.) Something to keep in mind if you meet me: I’m not stuck up, I’m just socially awkward sometimes. Sorry!
  2. If I get uncomfortable in awkward situations, I often end up laughing at very inappropriate times…
  3. After K (my oldest daughter) was born, I taught myself how to cook by trying out almost every recipe in the Betty Crocker Cookbook: Bridal Edition.
  4. In college, I thought I would be an animator but hated learning JavaScript. (Now I’m a blogger. Ha!) I ended up earning an Associate’s Degree in General Studies. Not very impressive, but at least I kept a 3.9 GPA.
  5. When I was 2, I rocked backwards in a rocking chair and fell, cutting off the tip of my right middle finger. I’m now left-handed, but I have no idea if that incident had anything to do with that development.
  6. In high school, I was adamant about never having kids because I didn’t want them to “grow up in such an evil world” but now that I’m older, I see kids as an opportunity to make things better by raising a better generation.
  7. My love for art and drawing has always been prevalent in my life, but my dream of an artistic career has consistently changed. At the moment, my next goal is to have one of my coloring books sold at Michael’s Craft Stores! *You can actually check out my coloring page, sticker, and greeting card creations in my Etsy shop Kandy Apple Art.*
  8. I’m an avid reader. When I was in elementary, I’d visit the library every. Single. Day. After school. The only thing that’s changed is that now I can afford to buy books instead of just borrowing them. 😉
  9. I LOVE to learn new things and use my knowledge of the past and my own experiences to constantly plan for the future. I’ve even taken the Clifton StrengthsFinder and discovered my #1 attribute is LEARNER. (Then Strategic, Achiever, Input, and Futuristic.)
  10. GOT (Game of Thrones), West World, and Firefly are my top three favorite TV shows. I guess I have a thing for slight fantasy/science fiction.

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My #1 Role: Mama

Being a mama is a defining quality of what makes me, me. I love, love, LOVE being a mom. And being a mama of girls is so much more fun than I ever imagined it’d be.

But going from mama of 1 to a mama of 2 has been a huge challenge for me! As my OBGYN told me:

“Going from 1 to 2 kids is always a challenge. You’re no longer only having to balance 1 child’s needs with your own. Now, you have 2 little people who don’t communicate with each other or take turns on having their needs met. They both need you, and they both need you now. It’s a huge adjustment.”

And she was so right! Only time and patience can make mothering more than one child work.

But what’s even more challenging, is when one of your children comes from a previous marriage or relationship. Then, on top of everything else, you’re having to balance a relationship with your ex in the mix. And because you want what’s best for your innocent child, and you want them to have time with both Mommy and Daddy, that means creating a schedule catering to these needs.

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The Road to Co-parenting Success

Co-parenting between two families after a divorce can be hard. (Trust me, it was no picnic at first!) But after a lot of trial and error, my ex and I have realized our families are just two sides of the same coin, both wanting what’s best for our K. We’ve developed a working relationship that has turned animosity into friendship, and misunderstanding into compromise.

And we couldn’t have done it without the support of our partners (K’s stepparents) Kristen and James.

Kristen – K’s stepmom – and I started out simply exchanging photos of our daughter whenever she was with us, so that each of us could enjoy seeing her when she was at the other’s house. This simple act of kindness (it really is one of the kindest things!) helped develop our parenting relationship into an actual friendship, making co-parenting even more fun!

Co-parenting is absolutely possible, so if you’re up to the challenge, read my tips on co-parenting successfully, or join our co-parenting challenge Facebook group.

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Blogging Business Partner

After improving on the co-parenting front, Kristen and I started sharing more and more. That’s when I started confiding in her about the blog. I shared the challenges I was facing and the hopes I had for the job, the struggles I had yet to overcome and the little wins I wanted to celebrate.

Kristen seemed enchanted with the idea! So much so that I wondered if she planned on starting her own blog. James, my fiancé, told me I should ask for her help, but I wouldn’t allow myself to think she’d want to help little ol’ me.

Imagine my surprise when Kristen asked to help me herself! So in January 2017, I happily welcomed my business partner and friend, Kristen, to the team! I can’t wait to see where this partnership and friendship takes us.

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My Dream for KAM

I know the kind of relationships most people expect to have with stepparents, with ex husbands, and with blended families. It’s known to be a challenge, and it’s all too often we hear stories about the crazy, the bad, and the ugly experiences. But Kandy Apple Mama is here to prove that these negative relationships don’t have to be the standard!

Part of my dream and mission for Kandy Apple Mama is to prove the exception, to live as an example, and to help other families find the same or better success with co-parenting.

But what’s more, is my hope that co-parenting be only a single, small part of KAM’s goals to help women be better, do better, and be the change we wish to see in the world.

My mission for Kandy Apple Mama is to drive women and mothers to always aim higher. Never stop learning. Always keep improving – as adults, as mothers, and as people. And to relay that message on to their children.

Because we have the power to change the world. We have the power to raise a better generation.

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What now?

New readers can start here with the Blog About Page.

Now that you know a little about me, where do you want to go from here?

Check out some of my favorite blog posts.

Parenting

Parenting Like Lorelai (Be a Gilmore Mom)

25 Newborn Essentials that Every Baby Needs

Relationships

50+ Date Ideas that fit Your Love Language

I have a Dream… of Co-Parenting Success

Adulting

Fact Checking in a World of “Fake News”

Do You Really Know Your Car Insurance Coverages?

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It was great meeting you, mama! Thanks for stopping by.

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Until next time,

xoxo